Can’t Orgasm during Sex? Top 3 Best Positions for Female Orgasm

Surprising research has found that it may not be your partner’s fault that you don’t orgasm during sex. Studies have discovered that if the clitoris moved too far up and away from the vagina opening when you were in the womb then sex alone would not create enough friction to make you come.

The distance from your vagina to your urinary has to be 2.5cm to be able to achieve an orgasm during sex, researches are confident that women with the clitoris even a ½ cm further up would not be able to orgasm without extra stimulation.

70 – 90% of women are unable to achieve an orgasm through sex without external stimulation.

Even if you are one of the lucky ones who can orgasm during sex without any help, it makes sense to choose positions that can easily stimulate the clitoris as well as using sex toys that can enhance and aid your experience and deliver multiple orgasms.

The two key areas to aid orgasm is the clitoris and G-Spot. Here are the best positions to help with stimulating both below.

THE BEST POSITIONS FOR WOMEN TO ORGASM DURING SEX

1. THE EAGLE

(variation on Missionary)

HOW TO :

· Start in a missionary position with you on your back and your man on his knees at the business end

· Bring your legs up and either rest the soles of your feet on his hands or place the backs of your thighs over his forearms. This move allows your hips to be lifted at the perfect angle to hit your G-Spot. You can easily adjust the angle/height of legs to suit you.

· Your man can sit back on his haunches or lean over you.

· Go in slow as this angle can be a fairly deep. Get him to tease you with just the tip of his cock to build you up before going deeper and bringing your back down, repeat to intensify the orgasm.

· Your mans hands are full with this move so if you want to stimulate your clit its down to you, whether you want to do it with your hands or a toy it will help enhance, prolong and hopefully give you multiple orgasms.

· Vary the pace, rhythm and direction, and more importantly get some grinding in a circular or figure of 8 motions to stimulate the clit.

VARIATIONS

· As you build towards your orgasm, either you or your man can firmly press down on your lower stomach, just above the pelvic bone. The pressure reduces the vaginal wall causing friction for you both. Whilst doing this you can also feel his cock rubbing against your hand as an additional turn on. This feels amazing as well as enhancing and intensifying your orgasm.

· Use a pillow or two under the bum to increase the angle; you could always do this with your head over the side of the bed to heighten the experience.

· Put legs over your mans shoulders

2. DOGGY

A favourite for both men and woman, it ticks all the boxes for pleasure, control, depth, variations and view!

HOW TO :

· Start on all fours on the bed, floor , sofa, table……

· Take some time beforehand with some foreplay, get you man to massage and grab your bum and tease and caress your hot spots, as well as reaching around to fondle your boobs and clit.

· He could even throw in a few spanks and hair pulling to get the blood flowing and keep you in the moment. He needs to be careful not to yank on the hair but grab it at the roots whilst pushing your head down and to the side, you can even turn it into a rough head massage for that delicious bite of pain/pleasure combo.

· You can move down to your forearms and stick your bum in the air for not only a great view but to give him the perfect angle to hitting your G. Again adjust your hips to find the most pleasurable angle for you.

· This is a great move for access to you and offers so many angles depending on your preference or time of month. Go as hard and deep or slow and gentle or a combination of them both as you want

· Doggy style also gives you the added stimulation of his balls slapping your clit with each thrust and perfect angle to grind his hips.

· In this position it’s easier for you to play with your clit to add to your pleasure. You can always massage his perineum or balls to increase his enjoyment too while your down there.

· Keep the bum massaging and spanking going throughout for pleasure and as a great way to keep you centered as well as preventing your mind drifting off and onto other mundane things;) He can even add a finger in the bum to really set you off!

Variations

· A personal favorite move is to get your man to lift your bum up with both hands on the outside of your hips and tilt it slightly in towards your head. This is quite an intense angle so go in slow but amazing when you hit the spot!

· You can experiment with leg position in one session or over several. Start in a ‘child’s pose’ with your legs out as far as they can go, this position gives you lots of control and variety. After you’ve given that position a good go start to bring your legs in. The final position is when your legs are together creating a snug fit with a great angle that hits your vaginal wall and G perfectly.

· Ensure you adjust your hips to make sure your G-spot is being hit. The leg position really does make a big difference so have a play around.

· Either have your bum in the air or bring it down in a sitting on your knees much like the ‘child’s pose’ as another option.

This position gives you lots of flexibility and variety for a wild ride, have fun playing around to find what gives you the most pleasure.

3. Cowgirl

This is an intimate position that allows you to control the pace, depth technique and angle.

HOW TO :

· With your partner on his back straddle his hips and either put your knees or feet down while you sit on his groin.

· You don’t have to dive straight in, why not start by rubbing yourself against each other to connect with each other and feel his heat whilst you kiss and build some friction. You could move on to playing with your boobs and clit and putting on a show that will get you both worked up.

· Whether you go in slow and gentle or hard and fast you are in control and can go as deep as you are comfortable with. Experiment with rocking back and forth and grinding in slow circles or a figure of 8 motion to stimulate the clit.

· If you want to bob up and down, why not increase arousal for you both by engaging your PELVIC FLOOR. This feels amazing for both of you and helps to intensify and speed up yours and his O's!

· For the ‘up and down’ technique, try placing your feet and hands on the floor to give you more control, depth and speed. The angle will also change when you lean forward which will hit some delicious hot spots. If you get tired your man can give you a helping hand and hold your bum to guide the rhyme.

· As you are in control of this ride, it leaves your man free to fondle and caress you as well as giving him a banging (ah hum!!) view of your body and eye contact. Get him to massage firmly around the hip joint before moving on to your clit.

Variations

· Lean back or forward to alter the angle and hit the G-Spot. Then increase the pressure on the clit by pressing your pelvis firmly into your mans body.

· Whilst on his lap get him to Sit Up so you are almost nose to nose, this intimate position is deep and offers great stimulation to the clit.

· Reverse Cowgirl is where you turn around, facing his feet. This position requires the same technique as the regular Cowgirl but is a different angle and perfectly rubs your front wall.

· In Reverse Cowgirl, get your partner to begin sitting up behind you and experiment with what position and angle you like best. You will also be able to grind against his stomach for added friction.

Have fun experimenting!

Technique : How to give the Ultimate Blow Job

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BJ... Blowy... Bob on a Knob... Fellatio... Give Head... Blumpkin... Lewinski...

Whatever you call it, if you want to know how to give the ultimate blowy keep reading.

Lets set the scene....Turn the lights down, put some music on and have your man sit somewhere comfortable that gives you easy access, throw a cushion on the floor for extra comfort if you’re down there (you never know how long it could take;). You may want to put on a show as we’re giving it our all, so strip down to your bra and knickers, make sure they match (well enough). You could take it a step further and pull out the lingerie, if all else fails wearing nothing is always a winner.

Make sure you have any supplies; water, tissues, lube, ice cubes (the list is endless) ready and waiting. Take control and own it, there is no bigger turn on to a man. Now get to work!

SNAP SHOT

1. Tease;

· Kiss and gently roam hands over backs of arms, neck, bum, backs of knees, lower belly and inner thighs

· Lick and kiss around the groin area

· Play and gently suck on his balls

· Firmly rub the perineum (between the balls and bum)

2. Technique;

· Licking, flicking and circling the head

· Grip base of shaft and play with balls

· Take control – Make eye contact, put on a show and enjoy it

· Talk dirty

· Deep throat not needed – Adopt dual hand and mouth combo

Mix it up, vary the speed and combination

· Ask what they like

· Edging – bring him to the brink and back off to intensify orgasm

· Finishing off, don’t slow down

· Tug on his balls and put pressure on the premium before he comes or a finger up his bum!

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IN DEPTH | Giving the Ultimate Blow Job

1. TEASE

a. Start with some steamy kisses, maybe add a couple of lip bites to get the blood pumping. Start roaming your hands lightly over your man, down the backs of his arms, neck, wrists, back and nipples. Then make you way down to his lower belly and inner thighs and backs of knees.

b. Turn the touch into more of a scratch, read his response to know how hard to do it.

c. Head back up to the groin area and begin to kiss and lick the inner thighs, lower belly and around his cock to build him up.

d. Begin playing with his balls then gently suck them into your mouth one at a time, using your tongue to play with them. Be gentle though and gage his response. Make sure not to twist the balls otherwise your man will be in a whole lot of pain.

e. Whilst doing this, rub and put pressure on the perineum (between balls and bum) another hot spot! Build up the excitement as much as possible before putting his cock into your mouth.

2. TECHNIQUE

a. Go in slowly, start with licking, flicking or circling around the top of the head just under the bulbous part (the frenulum) and the slit, then slowly lick and explore your way from the base up his cock.

b. Use your hands to play with the balls and/or grip the base of the penis whilst jacking him off. Vary the speed and direction by adding a twist every now again. Make sure you have a firm grip at the base with one hand; everyone will like different amounts of pressure so ask.

c. Maintain eye contact with your partner to see what he really likes whilst giving him your best bedroom eyes.

d. Take the opportunity to give him a bit of a show, you can use your free hand to run over your body and squeeze your boobs. Head lower down and start to touch yourself or let him help.

e. Talk dirty!

f. Dual hand and mouth combo (Deep throat imitation!)

Down to business… you’ve gone slow, you’ve licked and circled and teased and he’s getting excited! Now he wants a bit more but you don’t have to go 70’s porn star and deep throat to get the same results;

MOUTH -

• Imagine you are eating an ice cream and its melting, you need to lick and swoop the tongue up and down the cone (shaft) , then give a hard suck to the top and occasionally a lick to the middle (head & slit) with a swirl around the edge of the cone (frenulum) to finish off and then repeat.

• Take him fully into your mouth every now and again and flatten your tongue at the back of his penis on the way down and up whilst sucking hard.

• Make sure you mix it up, cover your teeth (unless he likes that) and vary the angle and position slightly each time.

HAND

• Keep one hand firmly at the base of the cock with easy access to playing with balls and the perineum (between bum and balls), introduce your other hand and start pumping up and down and twist towards the head intermittently whilst licking, swirling and sucking the head.

• Vary the pressure, speed and combination to get him close.

• You may want to use flavoured water based lube to help with this but it’s not necessary.

g. Ask what he likes! Does he want more pressure, suction, hands, and tongue?

h. When he is nearly there, bring him back down, using a technique called ‘edging’. Do this a few times to help build and sustain the intensity of his orgasm. Don’t forget, you can use your hands on his hotspots to help build him back up again so keep fondling his balls, perineum, inner thighs and lower belly and add a bit of pain with your nails.

i. The come shot - Just before he is about to come, TUG on balls whilst adding pressure on the perineum with a rubbing motion to send him flying and seeing stars!

j. If you’re feeling extra saucy (and he’s alright with it;) then you could always stick a finger up his bum! Aim for the mans g-spot about 5 – 10cm from the opening and towards the belly button, it’s a fleshy ball the size of a walnut.

k. Whether he comes in your mouth, over your breast, on your face, don’t slow down!

3. Get creative

Introduce foods that you can lick off like whipped cream or chocolate sauce, be prepared to get messy! Or you could experiment with popping candy, if you put some on your tongue before you put your mouth on him (and vice versa) it will soon spice things up.

To cool things down, drink some cold water or eat some ice cream and save some on your tongue before you lick the shaft. You could always use an ice cube to rub gently along the head and shaft for extra thrill factor. Gage his reaction, some things may be a hit or miss but you will definitely have fun trying!

Body Mapping - Explore your body and enhance your enjoyment of sex

The purpose of our body map is to help increase pleasure and sensitivity to certain parts of your body. Mapping was originally intended to help identify and unlock trauma areas, helping to heal the damaged tissue that might be numb, painful or desensitised, enabling reconnections via touch and in turn gain pleasure and sensitivity from it.

Our bodies and their sensitivity change over the years, especially with having C-sections, natural births and breastfeeding. Why not use mapping to explore your body to see what’s changed for you and discover what rocks your boat. You never know, this exercise might help to encourage a bit of pleasurable boob play rather than just thinking of them as a milking machine!

You or your partner may not want to create a map but you can still have fun going through the process of exploring your bodies to both understand where each other’s hot spots are now. The exercise doesn’t have to be about sex, you don’t have to put any expectation on it if you don’t want to, use it however best suits you.

Creating your body map…..

Overview

1. Draw Body Outline (or download)

2. Make Time Before Bed

3. Set the Scene

4. Explore Each Other from Head to Toe;

use light Touch, Massage, Caresses, Licking and Sucking

5. Code your Body with Colours for Areas you Like and don't Like to be Touched

6. Amber Zone - Proceed with Caution

1. Have a piece of paper and 3 different colouring pens (red,

orange and green are preferable) and draw a rough outline of your body, front and back (or print off a blank body map). Your partner can fill in the colour coding during your exploration or you can do it after.

2. Set aside an hour before bed so you aren’t rushing and have time to relax.

3. Put on some music and turn the lights down.

4. You are going to take it in turns to explore each other’s body. One or both undress; the first one lies down on their back, take a deep breath and close your eyes while the other starts to explore.

a. Begin at the top of the body and gently stroke and caress each area systematically, varying pressure and speed with your hands, lips or tongue.

b. Start with the scalp, work your way down the forehead and temples, caress eyebrows and temples, moving down the face and ears.

c. Start at the top of the ear and massage all the way down to the lobe. Take time kiss, lick and nibble sensitive areas like the side of the neck, behind the ear and down to the collarbone as well as the earlobe and shell.

d. Massage the outer side of the shoulders fairly firmly and work your way up and down the front of your arms, inside and underside of the arms are always super sensitive.

e. Move onto the torso where you can gently stroke across the collarbone and down the chest, caress the boobs/pecs, maybe roll or pinch the nibbles (men can be into this too so don’t leave it out).

f. Lick and suck the nipples and then try blowing on them, then work your way down.

g. Lightly stroke down the sides of the torso and across to the lower stomach, between the pelvic bone. Use both hands to massage the hips and vary the pressure and touch. Fingernails are fantastic to use lightly on sensitive areas if you can handle it.

h. Avoid your privates until you’ve explored the rest of you otherwise you may never get to it! You can also use this exercise as a build up to foreplay if you want to go there or just as a way to connect with your partner with no expectation from either of you.

i. Work down the legs very much like you did with the arms, the sensitive area on the inside of the thighs, again explore the pressure to see what you like.

j. The feet and ankles are very sensitive spots and are linked to other parts of your body so be gentle and take your queues from your partner as a deep arch massage can be just as stimulating as a light tickle if they’re not to ticklish.

k. Turn over

l. Start by going up the leg, massaging the calves with varying firmness, moving to behind the knee with a lighter touch.

m. The thighs and bum are big hot spots for lots of people so spend time on this area. Explore pressure on the bum and inside of thighs, a firm double-handed squeeze on the bum is a favourite.

n. The dimples on the lower back just above the bum is guaranteed to get you going if you hit the right spot, try a firm thumb massage and you’ll be thanking me later…

o. Moving up to the back, shoulders and sides again, mix things up, start with licking up the spine, use finger nails then finish with a massage. Listen to their reactions. Make sure you change directions and rhythm of strokes so you aren’t going over the same area repeatedly and over sensitising it, making it numb or painful.

p. Finally, give a head massage and maybe some hair pulling for good measure, you might just like it.

q. Then you can move to the privates…whether its for him or her be gentle… start with light strokes all around the pelvic area moving towards the vagina/penis. Circle the outside of the opening/tip of the penis and squeeze/roll the clit. Dip in for extra lube and carry on exploring. Stop and start and vary what you are doing, I’m sure you can take it from here…..

r. Time to switch over partners if you want to or you may prefer to save it for another day….

5. Colour in your body outline.

Use the traffic light system to colour code your map.

a. Green Full access any time, yes yes yes!

b. Amber Mmm maybe, it depends…

c. Red No way hose, off limits!

6. Amber zones There are many reasons you might want to use Amber on your map, whether these areas are sensitive during your cycle, you need to be warmed up before they are touched or you may not always feel like having that area touched. Remember to ‘Proceed with caution’ and talk to your partner!

Use the map as a tool to enhance your sex life and your level of pleasure. Talk to each other whilst exploring so you can express what you like, want more of or would like to try. Afterwards, go over each others maps together and don’t be afraid to show what you want, how you want it, when you want it.